For a correct engagement express your desire
For a specific woman who’s hand you wish to acquire.
Inform her wali, directly in person if you wish
Or send a representative who will better serve your interests
Engagements vary and the first type… of engagement is explicit,
A form very direct, the second is implicit,
At a time when it wouldn’t be correct to propose.
In any case, the rules of conduct are still the same,
Still not mahram, still covered with the modesty and shame,
Because engagements aren’t binding
They can be revoked at any moment.
They are used for getting acquainted
And making the resolve more potent.
And if she already accepted from a brother,
Then you must refrain for it is forbidden to under cut him,
As long as the pledge remains.
So the forbidden from engagements are but a few.
A woman already in the state of marriage and this leaves two.
The one who is waiting until she is through
And if she already accepted from a brother
That means so are you.
No doubt a woman desired will generally be for one of four,
Her wealth, lineage and beauty; qualities that men adore
But the one who was mentioned above all the rest,
Above all the rest, above all the rest.
Is she who learns and practices her religion best.
There are other characteristics that one could describe
To aid the puzzled seeker on his search for a bride.
To be fertile and a virgin if your status is of like,
Contentment with what Allah gives and with what he withholds
And if such a sister is found, surely she is a trove.
Beauty is relative, still important nonetheless,
As the coolness of the eyes will lead to the soul’s rest.
And the best mahar is that which facilitates ease.
And that is the most best for both families.
And finally, lineage should be taken into consideration,
As one’s nobility should increase due to the combination.. :)