a note of love to all my single girlfriends

Assalamualaikum.. i found this on fb. Just wanna share it to all of you. Hope you'll like it just like i do.

Last night my husband & I went for grocery shopping and we bought not-so-glamorous stuffs for the house like floor cleaner, cooking oil & rice; and then it struck me that we’re so married! Hehe... Alhamdulillah… It got me thinking of the things that I would do instead last night if I was still single; and it reminds me of my single friends who (I assume) like me once – waiting, hoping & looking for Mr. Right. Yes, I was all that, waiting, hoping & looking, and now when Allah sends my husband to me, for me, it happened so quickly, so fast, we were married within two-and-a-half months after the first day we laid eyes on each other! How did it happen? It’s Allah’s decree, no doubt. Alhamdulillah..

Before I deep-dive further into my marriage, I feel that I need to do my part to share with you bits and pieces of advice on the journey of finding ‘the one’. Please take this from my own experience and observation and it is not anyway to be treated like 'the checklist', but I think it will help insyaAllah.

#1 – Be Fair

A friend of mine told me that ‘we’ll get who we deserve’, and many years later I realized and come to my wisdom that it’s true; and to me, it’s even written in the Quran that: “…women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity” – Qur’an 24:26. So ladies, before we list down our criteria in a man that we’re looking for, like “Dia mestilah seorang yang bertanggung jawab, beriman & menghormati orang tua etc., do reflect again are we all that in the first place? Are we responsible? Are we pious? Are we respectful to the elders?

#2 – Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook You Up

We are Muslims. And we know that Allah is the Creator and He holds our future, our life. And only from Him we could be guided to find the one, the right one, the good one. So do check out this great article on the explanation of Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook you Up. I hold this concept true to my heart during my single days and hopefully you'll find it beneficial too insyaAllah.

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/hook-up-with-allah-allah-will-hook-you-up/

#3 – Be Proactive

When a few other friends and I were single, we are inspired by the story of our Mother of the Believers, Khadijah Binti Khuwailid r.a. There is an article on it, which is “Just Because Khadijah Ask” and one of the excerpts in the article says:

“Khadijah asked. Khadijah, may Allah’s Mercy be upon her, asked about Prophet Muhammad for marriage. She initiated the communication. She sent someone on her behalf to find out if he was available for marriage. And it was because she asked, that she got that blessed answer. And with that answer, was the beginning of the greatest stories of love for all times, and also one of the greatest examples of a true muhsina and mumina. A woman older than him, previously married with children, was inquiring about a younger bachelor, from one of the best tribes in town.  The honor of his acceptance wasn’t just hers alone. It was his too. He was going to marry one of the most beautiful hearts in all of Mecca. A woman who’s heart would sacrifice everything she had to support him, and Islam. Khadijah asked.”

Check out this website for the article:

http://muslimmatters.org/2010/08/02/because-khadijah-asked-an-alternative-path-to-meeting-mr-right/

I’m not saying just get out there and ask any male passers-by if they’re single and looking; but be truthful to begin with. The next time your aunts asking you when you’re getting married?; instead of replying “I just want to focus on my career for now”, please remove your ego and say “I have not found one, why not you introduce me to someone Aunty? I am ready to settle down.” They will usually quickly think of someone for you, or the at least they will think of you when the next time any of her friends start asking for any single girls to marry their bachelor sons, and if that doesn't happen too, the very least they will stop asking you when and that will lift unnecessary pressure.

Besides that, be active in community service, environmental projects, language classes, or any halal activities of your interest. You’d tend to meet more people outside your regular circle of friends, and raise the possibilities of meeting the one; and best of all he will share the same interest as you. Sharing the same interest is always a good thing to begin with.

#4 – He will be the Father of Your Children

I went for a talk by Yunus Kathrada, he told us a story of a man who went to see a Syeikh to seek advice on his newborn child. Which is good to always seek advice, but the Syeikh responded to the man “It’s too late”. Why? The Syeikh said that the process of raising an excellent child begins even before we get married - by selecting a good spouse to begin with. I have heard stories about girl meets boy at Hard Rock Café, at Zouk nightclub and what else have we. I cannot say that couples met at all these places would be heading to a crappy marriage, but think about it. Don’t we all want a good beginning for our union that would bear us pious and righteous kids in the future?

For a very good lecture on this, it brought tears to my eyes. Allahuakbar. Please YouTube search this: "Mufti Menk parent~child relationship"

Maybe what I'm trying to say also is, all human are born with a fitrah, an innate feeling of returning to the Almighty Allah. No matter how naughty we are at a point of our lives, at the back of our heads I'm sure we'll be thinking "I will repent and return to Allah one day". But, if girl meets boy at nightclub, and then they get married, years later the girl feels like she wants to get closer to Allah while the boy still would like to party; then we'll see a problem when the girl starts going to religious classes and want to go for Umrah, while her husband refuse to even pray his solat. Which of the parents will the children look up to and follow? Let's think far, and choose wisely.

Besides that, observe his temperament & his reaction towards children – the last thing you would want when you’re married with 3 kids crying in your arms, you ask for his help with the kids and he says.. “You know right honey, me and kids just don’t gel”…

#5 – Eliminate, Banish Your Baggage

I believe there is wisdom for free-mixing and dating is haraam in Islam. We all know that GF-BF concept is superficial; we will never get to know the true color of someone until we live with them – day in, day out. If you are still not convinced that dating is haram, the are a lot of hadiths to prove it, but I will share one here that I feel so strong about:

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

-Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

Don't tell me people who "couple" and "date" don't even touch each other. Dating/couple/in a relationship is haram my dears. Fear Allah and seek for his help to give you strength to do the right thing.

And to me, the other ugly side of this “dating” relationship is, it does not always have the happy ending. I have heard stories of a bride crying on her wedding day when her ex-boyfriend called her up for a last good bye, some still can’t get over their exes even after having children; some still secretly get in touch with their exes just to ask “How have you been”?” subhanAllah… May Allah protect us from this.

If you still have issues or still cannot get over an ex, deal with it now. It will fog-up your path to find the one, and you will always have the shadow of your ex over your decision on moving on with another man. You would only want to have a vision of you and your husband and your kids in the future, and not the thought of “How would it be if I marry him instead?” Wise up, girls!

#6 – Be Selective, Not Picky

I believe there is a fine line between being selective and picky. To me, if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered and has a stable income; but he smokes & you realized that he seldom attends Friday prayers, then yes you're being selective. But if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered, has stable income, doesn't smoke, and is Allah-fearing, but he is a mommy's boy (or he's balding, or he has an interesting hobby of collecting dried leaves) then you're being picky.

Key thing to remember here “Deal Breaker”. If he has or lacks of certain pivotal quality/characteristic that you cannot live with/without then it is big reason not to marry him. For example, if you know you're a career driven person and have major career ambitions but your potential husband wants you to eventually quit your job to look after the kids then that's the “Deal Breaker”. But please do not confuse deal breaker with differences. For example, if you like to eat Japanese and hates Italian food but he cannot bear the thought of eating raw fish but loves pasta, this is not deal breaker. Both of your can still work around differences and it is silly to have a big fight over which restaurant to go have dinner. But “Deal Breakers” are something that could most likely put a strain in a marriage in which failing to manage could lead to divorce. See the significance?

However, please try not to overanalyze and being hypercritical. Another key thing to remember is: Nobody Is Perfect, and no sayang, not even you.

#7 – Be Ready to Give (Up)

Marriage is not all about sex. It's not all about him showering you with endless love and affection. It's not all about cuddling & curling up together in the bed every night. Yes, it is all that, but it is not all and everything about that. It's not all about you! Marriage needs sustenance, and it does not come for free, you need to work for it. You need to give. Just like how we expect our men to know manly stuffs like how to change the car tyre when it punctures or know to repair a leaking pipe or how to assemble a DIY baby cot; I'm sure men would also expect the wives to know womanly stuffs like how to cook, how to do laundry properly and perhaps iron man's work clothes.

Of course most of us could say that it's the modern world now, women don't need to know how to cook and clean and that we can get a maid to do all that. But would you really want to get a maid to cook your husband's meals & iron your husband's work shirts? I know it's easier said than done, but who say that to maintain a happy marriage is effortless & easy?

Ready to give, includes being ready to give up. Do you have male friends who you often hang with, or who to you “we're just friends?” or “we've been friends for so long he's like a brother to me”? Guess what? After you're married, I would need to advice you to give them up like a bad habit. I know along the years we have made so many friends including guy friends, but once we're married we CANNOT hang out with them anymore. I am not saying we cannot be friends anymore, but it is with loads of limitation. I trust that you would use your wisdom on how to draw the line. Even though you future husband is the “coolest” guy on earth (and Allah forbids) he allows you hang out with any of your guys friends, once you're being seen by other people hanging out with another guy other than your husband, you've lit a spark for fitnah and speculation which will spread like wildfire. Imagine a neighbour saw you walking with your male friend at a mall, and she tells your mother in-law. High voltage drama huh?

Trust. Could take years to build, but only a minute to destroy.

#8 - It's Him Not His Money

So, he drives a BMW and earns RM20k a month? OR So, he drives his father's first car and don't really have a proper job? BUT I say So what?

Often times girls will look for a man that is wealthy and rich - that's completely common. Its a biological and psychological thing. We need look for men that can "hunt & gather" to provide security, shelter and food to take care of us and our young. It's a survival thing.

However, either he is rich or broke; he is actually rich or broke NOW. Who are we to say that their wealth will be there forever, or that they will earn very little money for lifetime? The key point to stress, is his deen (iman) & character. Does he have the right knowledge and iman to guide you and your young. Does he have maturity and good character to endure the challenges of the world and maried life? They say money is the #1 cause of divorce nowadays. But do you think it's the money or how the married couple deal and manage when they're stuck in a situation that involves money?

I am not saying, go into marriage blindly but please use your wisdom and not your desire. He may not have much today, but if you see that he has the willpower to work hard to earn a better living and you believe with all your heart that Allah is All Provider, insyaAllah you'll be fine.

For me, during the ta'aruff (introduction meeting) with my then-not-yet-husband, I asked him about his education. To me and maybe to a lot of parents education is key. Personally, I don't mind if he is a burger flipper at Ramly Burger (he's not by the way), but if he has a qualification, or a degree or something, insyaAllah he has something to fall back on. I didn't ask him about how much he's earning or anything like that, because it's not important to me. Have faith in Allah that He is The All Provider.

From Umar ibn Al-Khattab from the Prophet (sas) who said:

"If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs."

Ahmad, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi who said: "Hassan sahih"

#9 – Know the Rights of Husband & Obligations of Wife, Vice Versa.

A lot of us dreams of getting married one day to wear nice dress on the wedding day. But after the wedding day is over a whole new world of responsibilities await you and him. Both husband and wife has a list of responsibilities within the Islamic guidelines. Read them up, study them. By abiding to this guidelines, almost certainly we can maintain a happy marriage by the will of Allah.

But often, during tense and trying times the husband and wife would usually accuse each other of not full filling his/her rights. For example the husband would say “You should beautify yourself for me and not look like a mess at home!”; and the wife would say something like “You're supposed to provide a home for us, but we been living with your housemate for months now!”

A key guideline to this is to prioritize your obligations as a wife and to respect the rights of the husband. And vice versa of course. Know your obligations, what you should do, your responsibilities BEFORE thinking about your rights, his obligations, what he should do and his responsibilities.

So now.. can you manage to fulfill all your obligations? Are you such a strong-headed person that would be able to listen to your husbands advice? Do you have the right attitude to be kind to your husband? Do you still think that after you're married you can do whatever you want and allow anybody into your house without your husband's permission? What would you do if you have a long tiring day at work but you need to fulfill your husband's physical desire? Do you have the right motivation to beautify yourself (at home) to be pleasing to his eyes with your appearance? Basically, do we have the right mindset to strive to be a good wife? Or do we still think it's all about me, me, me?

Please ponder on this hadith:

Qays ibn Sa'd Narrated: I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap (governor of a province in ancient Persia) of theirs, so I said: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Apostle of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. [Hadith: Sunan Abu Dawud, 11:2135]

Heavy. I know... :(

But marriage is such a pure & beautiful thing that if we fulfill every obligations for the sake of Allah, we shall be rewarded for every effort insyaAllah.

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

insyaAllah...Yeay!! :D

#10 – It is the Marriage, Not the Wedding

I think we heard countless times that engaged couples are putting off marriage because they do not have enough money to hold the wedding. If you're imagining a wedding with rotating wedding cake, nasi minyak lobster menu, tents decorated with thousands of tulips from Amsterdam, haute couture Vera Wang wedding dress and French Riviera honeymoon (ok, I'm exaggerating here but you get the picture) - then no wonder why you need to put off your wedding.

But my dears, it's really not all about the wedding. Some of my friends asked me whether it was the happiest day of my life; I had a little trouble answering that because leading after the wedding is what matters more to me. The whole lifetime with this person that you should treat him as part of you; and build a family with children whom are the coolness of our eyes. InsyaAllah.. and that thought itself could make one very happy.

It's not about the wedding stuffs. I remember people who attended my wedding and the precious moments. How I was overwhelmed with emotions when my dad hugged me tightly before the akad nikah & my mom whispered "you'll always be my baby" during the akad nikah ceremony. And the happiest thing I could remember on my wedding day was holding his hand for the very first time. That was surreal, I loved it so much. See? I don't remember much about the wedding stuffs; although they're really nice - the dress, the pelamin, the bunga telur, Alhamdulillah, but I don't remember that time and again.  I always have this theory, the longer it takes to prepare a wedding the harder it gets to let the wedding itself go... After 1 year (or even more) of preparing, it will all be over in 2 days, and you'd go.. "That's it? That's The wedding?" So please, once you have met the right person to marry, go ahead with it – quickly.

Some really good books on preparing yourselves for marriage, I would recommend:

1. The Muslim Family Series by Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly

2. The Ideal Muslimah by Dr. Muhammad Ali Al Hashimi

Can get them from Dakwah Corner Bookstore -  http://www.dakwahbookstore.com.my

Some really good speakers I love listening to (YouTube them):

1. Mufti Menk

2. Nouman Ali Khan

3. Mussab Wadji Akkari

So there you go. A little note of love from the quite newly married me to all my single sisters. I always make du'a for Allah to hasten the jodoh for all my single sisters with a pious and great men who will be the coolness of their eyes. Please make loads of du'a for yourselves too. Never lose hope in the mercy of Allah.  “Hook up with Allah and Allah will hook you up”, remember? :)

A wife is like a gift to a man. And there is a hadith that goes like this:

"This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is righteous women.” - Sahih Muslim 10/56.

So prepare yourself to be a gift (and not a test) to your future husband, so that one day he will hold you and look lovingly in your eyes and say “Alhamdulillah”.

~END~

Do share if you feel this would benefit others, insyaAllah.

Please make doa for Allah to shower me & my family with His mercy and keep us steadfast on the right path. Ameen..

sebelum melangkah ke alam itu

Assalamualaikum wbt..

seha nak share satu artikel berguna yang disediakan oleh saudara Adlan Khalidi. disini seha copy infografik tentang perkahwinan untuk rujukan sesiapa saja sebagai persediaan masa depan dan untuk rujukan seha sendiri juga. 

erm, siapa cakap kahwin ni senang kan?

alam perkahwinan memang diimpikan setiap insan. tapi kita kena tahu dan sememangnya sudah tahu yang alam itu jugalah yang penuh dengan tanggungjawab. bahu jika belum cukup tegap nak pikul tanggungawab itu, tak usah sibuk mencari calon sekarang. banyak yang perlu kita baiki dalam diri sendiri untuk ke arah itu. sekarang pun seha rasa masih banyak yang perlu seha belajar untuk melangkah ke alam itu. 

seha ada terbaca satu artikel di dalam majalah solusi yang bertajuk "Telah siapkah dirimu menjadi Super Parents?". dan ayat yang mencuit fikiran dari artikel itu berbunyi “Lebihkan menjadi daripada mencari”.. instead sibuk mencari suami/isteri soleh/solehah, kita sendiri kena jadi soleh/solehah dulu. kan pasangan kita itu adalah cermin kepada diri kita sendiri. sama-sama fikirkan sejenak.. :)

selain itu, bacalah post yang Fatin Liyana share. sangat berguna dan terkesan dalam hati.. dan insyaAllah kita sama-sama ambil pengajaran dari pengalaman orang lain. :)

pada yang belum pergi kursus kahwin, pergilah. tak kisahlah kahwin lambat lagi ka apa. lepas seha pergi kursus kahwin tahun lepas, barulah seha sedar. kahwin bukan perkara main-main, bukan untuk seronok seronok. kahwin boleh jadi salah satu jalan pintas ke syurga. tetapi awas, jika tak cukup ilmu, perkahwinan juga membolehkan anda menempah sekeping tiket VVIP ke neraka. fikir-fikirkanlah..

seha doakan semoga kita semua mendapat jodoh yang baik dan hidup yang lebih dekat denganNya setelah bernikah.. insyaAllah. may Allah bless! :)

believe in yourself

"One thing I've learned from the past is to never give up, no matter how bad your result is. Don't let it stop you from achieving your dreams."

In the name of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful.

It's 8.22 in the morning. Yesterday was our last lecture here, as a pre-clinical year students. Honestly, I'm a bit nervous for my coming exams. Now I'm not mentally and physically prepare for it. But despite all of that, my fingers still dance on the keyboard and write this post. I feel a bit guilty for this but I still want to finish this post and to wash away all my negative thoughts. And this post is also for my dearly sister who will be taking her SPM soon, Aliah. This is for you.. :)

I remember those days when I struggled to calm myself down. Those days were the days I lost my appetite to eat and losing interest to have fun with my friends. Those were the days when I spent my day working and the rest of it at home, completing Sudoku. Funny isn't it? I was so scared, terribly scared. But at the end of the day, I said to myself, I have to face it no matter what. Whether it is good or bad, I have to accept it and be grateful to Allah for it. Because Allah knows what's best for me. My result wasn't like what I expected, but Alhamdulillah, I passed all the papers. I am being completely honest; I'm just an ordinary student. But I believe in myself that I can go far beyond my imagination, beyond my expectation. And so do you. Yes you can. I believe the only thing limiting you is your thoughts. Only you have the power to change your thoughts. Look forward and dream of what is possible for your life. With action, anything in life is possible. Yes, we all can do it.

"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve."

[Dato' Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor] 

I love the quote. I've been keeping it in my heart and mind ever since I read it in Dato' Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor's book. Life has thrown some rocks in my stream and one of it has helped me to become stronger, to become who I am today. Sometimes struggles and challenges are exactly what we need in our lives. All the challenges are the nature of life which has helped me to grow up and to become more mature. One thing I've learned from the past is to never give up, no matter how bad your result is. Don't let it stop you from achieving your dreams. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.. :)

A few years ago, I was that girl sitting in her room imagining her dreams, putting her best effort to achieve her dreams. Alhamdulillah, with patient and faith I have in Allah, I've achieved a part of my dreams. The key is faith. Have faith in Allah and have faith in yourself. Take a good care of your relationship with Allah. Never neglect your five times daily prayers because that is the most important thing and the best communication we have with Allah, which is also the only way you can conceive Him that you really want this. Trust me, if you have Allah, you have everything and you lost nothing.

I look forward for adventures in my life. Now that I'm here, pursuing another dream of mine, setting goals and resolutions. I've been planning so many things for the future, insyaAllah. So, in order to achieve all that, I have to work hard and be persistent. Please pray for my success in this world and the Hereafter, to become the best Muslimah Doctor, InsyaAllahu Taala.

Our results will show us the hard work we've put on for the past few years or months. It shows us how much effort we've put on. By the meaning of 'effort', it's not just about burning the midnight oil. It's also about how earnestly you pray to Allah. If you fail to achieve your target, it is not the end of everything. Bear in mind that Allah knows what's best for you. Failing doesn't mean you are a loser. In fact, failure is the best teacher. The reason why Allah make it a bit harder for you is to make you a fighter. He wants you to feel and appreciate the feeling of victory and success. Set your aims and goals, and try harder next time. And if you pass with flying colors, then Alhamdulillah, say Alhamdulillah. Remember, nothing great was ever achieved without Allah's help. And His help is always near to us. May Allah bless us all! :)

Love,

     

sahabat sebenar

assalamualaikum wbt..

alhamdulillah.. syukur sangat sebab hal rumah baru dah hampir selesai. tapi ada sedikit masalah juga. seha cari kawan-kawan untuk minta tolong. masa ni, baru nampak siapa sebenarnya sahabat seha. tak tahula mungkin dorang masih judge seha dengan masa lalu. dan seha tau seha pun bukan kawan yang baik, tapi kalau seha boleh tolong, seha akan usaha kurangkan sedikit beban mereka. seha hanya minta tolong sikit sahaja.. tapi mungkin payah bagi mereka. maaf menyusahkan semua.. :(

seha akan usaha cari alternatif lain pula. sekarang seha dah tau siapa sahabat seha, walaupun baru kenal dorang, tak sampai setahun pun tinggal sama, tapi seha rasa macam dah satu family dengan dorang. sedih nak pisah dah dengan dorang. terima kasih jadi sahabat seha.. :)

p/s; sabar... bila kita redha pada sesuatu yang mengecewakan hati kita, maka percayalah Allah akan menggantikan kekecewaan itu dengan sesuatu yang tak dijangka. semoga semua ini akan memberi seha kekuatan di masa depan. aminn.. may Allah bless! :)

kuat dan sabar seperti Baginda SAW

assalamualaikum..

seha baru selesai membaca kisah hidup Rasulullah SAW. erm, siapa tidak kenal Nabi Muhammad SAW. berapa ratus buku di tulis oleh tokoh sejarah Islam dan bukan Islam tentang Baginda. siapa tidak rindu Rasulullah SAW. hingga ada lagu laukana bainana lagi.

tapi kan.. rindu Rasulullah itu cukupkah sekadar rindu? macam mana dengan ajaran-ajaran yang Rasulullah bawa? adakah kita amalkan dan sampaikan? bagaimana kita boleh jadi sekuat dan tabah Rasulullah yang memikul tanggungjawab dari Allah? bagaimana mahu sabar dengan orang-orang jahil sebagaimana sabarnya Rasulullah?

betapa penyabarnya Rasulullah dengan orang Yahudi yang mencaci baginda.. hari-hari Rasulullah suapkan makanan untuk Yahudi buta yang mencaci baginda.

betapa sabarnya Rasulullah.. menziarahi jirannya yang terlantar sakit walhal setiap hari buang sampah depan rumah Nabi SAW.

betapa sabarnya Rasulullah.. bila ada Yahudi rentap kain yang ada di leher Rasulullah sampai berbekas merah di leher Rasulullah tapi Rasulullah tetap penuhi permintaan dia..

betapa sabarnya Rasulullah.. bila dua orang yang paling kuat menyokong baginda meninggal dunia Rasulullah tetap meneruskan usaha dakwahnya..

betapa sabarnya Rasulullah.. kena campak batu sampai berdarah, dikutuk macam-macam.. tapi tak marah pun dengan penduduk taif.. sedangkan Jibril pun rasa mahu hempap mereka dengan gunung. Baginda siap mendoakan untuk mereka pula.

sabarnya Rasulullah kita.. Nabi kita yang sangat mulia hatinya..

tapi diri ini, mengaku ummat Muhammad..
jauhnya berbeza dengan Baginda.. #muhasabahdiri

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cemburu!

assalamualaikum wbt.. IKHLAS, hari ini seha rasa nak cerita tentang ikhlas. betapa tingginya darjat orang ikhlas. walaupun amalnya kecil dimata manusia, tetapi besar di sisi Allah.

Firman Allah swt,

'Ikhlas itu satu rahsia dalam rahsia-Ku,
Aku titiskan ia dalam hati hamba-hambaKu yang Aku
kasihi.' 

(Hadis Qudsi).

seha terbaca satu kisah tentang seorang makcik.. dia hanyalah seorang yang tua, mengajar anak-anak di kampung membaca Al-Quran. mayatnya wangi setelah meninggal!

seha mahu BOLDkan disini.

dia bukan seorang HAFIZAH..

dia bukan juga seorang tokoh terkenal memperjuangkan Islam..

dia juga bukan seorang ahli farmasi yang memperkenalkan formula dan prinsip baru dalam perubatan..

dia juga bukan isteri ketua kampung mahupun isteri tok imam..

dia bukan juga seorang naqibah yang begitu ramai anak buahnya..

dia bukan seorang wanita yang pintar berkata-kata..

ya, makcik itu hanyalah seorang tua yang mengajarkan anak-anak kampung membaca surat cinta dari Allah.. SubhanAllah!

Pengajaran yang kita dapat:

1- besarnya nilai ikhlas, hingga amalan kecil pada pandangan manusia sebenarnya besar disisi Allah.

2- bukan bermaksud kita tidak perlu melakukan usaha habis-habisan untuk menjadi yang terbaik di sisi Allah.

3- bukan juga bermaksud kita boleh menghukum orang yang kita lihat lebih hebat dari kita sewenang-wenangnya hanya kerana kesalahan kecil yang dilakukannya.

4- walaupun amal baik itu kecil dan bukan ditunjukkan orang hebat, ia tetap menjadi contoh ikutan untuk kita turut sama melakukannya.

seha cemburu pada orang yang berjaya meletakkan Allah sebagai cinta hatinya yang pertama sebelum perkara lain.. seha juga mahu jadi begitu, insyaAllah. :)

p/s; untuk apa sanjungan dan pujian manusia? itu semua hanya merosakkan segala amal yang sudah sedia sedikit. "ikhlas itu ibarat semut hitam yang berjalan di atas batu hitam di malam yang gelap". betapa halusnya ikhlas itu, sehingga malaikat sendiri tidak tahu dan syaitan tidak mampu merosakkannya. hanya Dia yang Mengetahui. semoga dituntun hati kita dengan cintaNya dan terarah langkah kita selari dengan redhaNya. aminn.. may Allah bless! :)

hati jangan cepat menghakimi

Assalamualaikum.. tiba-tiba hati ini terdetik, terfikir, baikkah kita sebenarnya?

kita solat 5 waktu.. beribadat siang dan malam, tapi kita tidak pernah mahu berbakti kepada saudara seIslam kita yang sedang dalam kesusahan. baikkah kita sebenarnya?

kita tidak pernah mengumpat tentang dia tetapi setiap kali kita mendengar orang bercakap sesuatu yang buruk tentang dia.. dalam hati kita turut mengeji dan memandang rendah pada dia.. baikkah kita?

kita seorang yang alim dari segi ibadahnya, dari segi pakaiannya, kita mungkin sudah ke Mekah berkali kali, khatam Quran berkali kali. tapi bila kita melihat seorang yang JAHAT pada dulunya telah menjadi BAIK.. kemudian kita berkata;  "ala.. dulu dia bukan baik macam ni.. dulu dia kaki perempuan.. dulu dia penipu.. dulu dia banduan". dengan amalan yang kita buat.. dengan perbuatan kita.. baikkah kita?

kita seorang yang memakai pakaian lengkap menutup aurat. kita selalu ke kelas agama. tapi bila lihat saudara seIslam kita yang lain memakai pakaian tidaklah selengkap kita, mungkin ada juga yang tidak memakai tudung.. dalam hati kita berkata, "tak naklah kawan dengan dia, dia tak baik." dengan memilih siapa sahabat kita.. dengan menghakimi baik tak baik seseorang itu.. baikkah kita??

kita sentiasa menjadi pendengar yang baik kepada seseorang.. kita ada disaat suka dan duka mereka.. kita dengar tangisan dan tawa mereka.. kita dengar cerita mereka.. tapi dalam hati kita mengutuk mereka. "bosan betul lah aku dengar masalah dia.. ishh kalau tak kerana nak bodek..tak kuasa aku nak melayan". baikkah kita?

kita sentiasa merasakan kita adalah yang terbaik.. yang bagus.. yang hebat. kita sentiasa merasakan orang lain tidak baik.. low class.. kurang amalan.. walau hakikatnya kita memang baik dan orang itu memang buruk. namun, cukup baikkah kita??

"Bila melihat orang-orang jahil, anggaplah dia lebih mulia daripada kita kerana kejahilannya itu, sedangkan kita yang berilmu dan berakal ini pun sering bergelumang dengan dosa. Seandainya berjumpa dengan orang-orang jahat, janganlah menganggap kita lebih mulia darinya, sebaliknya anggaplah dia akan bertaubat dan memohon keampunan dari Allah S.W.T dimasa tuanya. 

[Imam al Ghazali]

p/s; Allah knows best about the past, the present and the future. He knows us better than we know ourselves. so, just leave the judging to Allah. may Allah bless! :)

on forgiveness and fairytale

"Learn to forgive. Forgive everything from the past and forgive anyone from your past. Because on this world, nobody is perfect."

We all make mistakes. And it is always good and noble to forgive someone in your life. In love, teach to forgive the one you love. It doesn't matter how bad or how much it hurt before, learn to forgive them. Even if they are not sorry. The best thing of forgiving someone is you are pleasing Allah Taala. InsyaAllah, only He can cure our hearts. And I also hope anyone that I've hurt will forgive me too. :)

"When you stop searching for a prince and make Allah the King of your heart, He will help you to complete your fairytale. InsyaAllah."

Remember, Allah always has a better plan for each and one of us. Alhamdulillah, I can't tell you how thankful I am to Allah that because of Him, I've learn to improve and see my mistakes in the past.  I've done so many mistakes. Now, all I want to do is to change myself to become a better person. InsyaAllah. I believe in Allah. I believe that He has written something special for me. Special that it takes a lot of patience and prayer. And all I want to do now is to prepare myself for that special person. A special person whom I'll be spending the rest of my life with, through thick and thin, and the most important things - the one who will lead me towards Allah, who will become the Imam for my prayers, the father of my children, the one who will always hold my hands and together helping each other to attain Jannah. InsyaAllah. To me, it's not just about love. It's more than that. It's about responsibility and commitment. It's about the beginning of the journey towards forever in Jannah. And most of all, I want it to be special, to experience it according to what Allah has already planned for me.

InsyaAllah.

I will always be waiting for that day to come.

Dear heart, have faith in Allah.

Love,

nikmatMu yang tak pernah putus

Saat aku merenung langit cerah..melihat kehidupan sekeliling masih berjalan seperti biasa..tersenyum sendirian, Allah itu memang BAIK...

dan ketika ini..
✿~ ada jasad bernyawa baru DILAHIRKAN ke dunia..
✿~ ada manusia sedang NYENYAK dibuai mimpi..
✿~ada orang menerima PENDAPATAN lumayan hasil penat lelah mereka..
✿~ ada pasangan baru BERKAHWIN membina istana bahagia..
✿~ ada budak baru BELAJAR MEMBACA..
✿~ ada anak baru belajar MENYEBUT buat pertama kalinya..
✿~ ada yang MERENUNG JAUH ke angkasa memikirkan impian..
✿~ ada yang MENIKMATI hari terbaiknya hari ini..
SUNGGUH BERMAKNA.. INDAH..

tapi ketika ini..
✿~ ada yang DIKHABARKAN hidupnya hanya seminggu lagi..
✿~ ada yang MEMBUNUH dirinya sendiri..
✿~ ada yang MERAYU rezekinya di hujung jalan..
✿~ ada yang KEHILANGAN kesayangan mereka selamanya..
✿~ada yang DIJATUHI HUKUMAN ke penjara seumur hidupnya..
✿~ ada yang BEKERJA 16 jam tanpa henti tiada habuannya..
PAHIT.. PERIT..

imbas..
AKU DI SINI..
punya arus elektrik membekal cahaya dan haba..
punya makanan tersedia untuk dijamah..
punya air bersih untuk bersiram..
punya masa untuk menulis ini..

p/s: seharusnya.. seha BERSYUKUR, bukan MENGELUH dengan hidup yang telah ditakdirkan untuk seha. terima kasih Allah atas segala NIKMAT kurniaanMu ini.. tidak mampu ku luahkan betapa aku bersyukur padaMu, segala puji hanya bagiMu.. rahmati juga semua insan terbaik yang Kau hadirkan disekelilingku. aminn ya Rabb.. may Allah bless us all! :)

coretan buat permata hatiku

Assalamualaikum wbt..

coretan kali ini buat permata hati seha.. seha teramat menyayangi mereka. kasih sayang yang mereka curahkan sentiasa buat seha tersenyum bahagia. mereka adalah mama dan abah seha.. :)

 

alhamdulillah.. seha dilahirkan dalam keluarga yang sederhana. seha bersyukur walaupun kami tidaklah sesenang orang lain tapi entah, kami adik-beradik tak pernah rasa susah..

"kasih ibu membawa ke syurga, kasih ayah sepanjang waktu"

jasa dan pengorbanan keduanya takkan mampu seha balas walau ada harta berjuta pun. kini, seha sedang menuntut ilmu jauh dari keluarga. nak balik ke rumah selalu itu memang dalam mimpi saja. sesekali rindu datang mengetuk hati. hanya gambar saja yang dapat ditatap, hanya suara mereka yang dapat didengar dan air mata menjadi peneman paling setia.

mama.. memang tak pernah lelah mendidik dan mengasuh kami. abah pula, jarang bersuara. namun sekali abah bersuara, penuh dengan nasihat. mama dan abah mementingkan soal agama, lagi-lagi soal solat dan aurat. bila dah baligh, kena solat dan tutup aurat. sebab abah ada 4 orang anak perempuan, lelaki 2 orang saja itupun masih kecil.

mama tak pernah jemu bagi nasihat.. abah pun sama. dari kecil asuh kami adik-beradik untuk pakai tudung. sampaikan adik perempuan seha yang paling kecil tu pun waktu belum baligh, ikut pakai tudung sama. syukur sangat..

dan seha sebagai kakak, tugas seha mengawasi adik-adik. yalah, kadang-kadang tak tetap sebab masih budak-budak lagi. satu yang seha selalu cakap dengan adik-adik seha;

"sayang abah tak? nak abah masuk neraka? kesianlah dekat abah.. abah usaha buat kebaikan tapi anak-anak dia sendiri yang humbankan dia pergi neraka." 

alhamdulillah.. adik-adik seha mengerti. tapi sekarang seha tiada di rumah. jadi agak susah nak tegur adik-adik sekarang. jadi kebiasaanya seha akan berpesan dekat adik-adik seha sebelum terbang ke mesir.. dengan muka serius, seha berpesan;

"jangan susahkan mama.. tolong kemas rumah kalau bersepah, kalau ada baju tolong jemur dan lipat. jangan peningkan abah kalau abah baru pulang kerja, jangan bising-bising. kalau abah dah iqamat, ikut jemaah dengan abah."

seha hanya mampu berdoa dari sini.. semoga mama dan abah terus diberikan kesihatan. kalau mama sakit, mama tak bagitahu pun tapi dengar suara mama seha tau mama sedang sakit. abah pun selalu sakit, seha risau sangat. abah kerja keras demi kami. dan mereka tak harapkan wang ringgit sebagai balasan. hanya kejayaan dari kami adik-beradik. kakak sayang sangat mama dan abah.. rindu sangat. semoga Allah merahmati mama dan abah, permata hati seha.. may Allah bless both of you. :')

sungguh.. hati ini rindu..

Rindu itu bertandang lagi

Bersama sejuta kenangan nan indah di hati

Ingin ku lepas rindu itu bersama angin lalu

Namun baru sebentar ia pergi

Ia menerjah kembali

Ya Allah..

Kuatkan aku dari rindu ini

Walaupun kehadirannya sedetik cuma

Namun ia cukup menyiksa

Hatiku kian resah

Langkahku semakin payah

Rinduku semakin dalam

Berdarah di jiwaku

 

Kuatkan aku ya Allah..

Kuatkan aku dari rindu yang tidak halal ini

Rindu yang bisa merosak dan melalai jiwa

Saat aku terleka

Rindu itu datang menyapa

Datangnya menggoyah hati

Bersama titisan air mata ku buang rindu itu pergi

Kerana ku tahu belum masanya rindu itu ku ucap

Ya Allah

Teguhkan langkahku menuju jalan-Mu

Janganlah pernah Engkau palingkan hatiku

Setelah sinar hidayahMu Kau beri padaku

Sesungguhnya aku sangat rindu
Rindu pada keredhaan dan keampunanMu..

penghujung semakin hampir

semester 6.. ini semester akhir untuk tahun 3.. semoga dapat buat yang terbaik kali ni.

-tempoh module GIT ni adalah 8 minggu
-EXAM: pada minggu ke-9
-LAST CLASS: 26 april 2012 (revision class)
-PRACTICAL EXAM: 28-29 april 2012 (gap 2 hari dengan last class)
-STUDY LEAVE: 30-2 may 2012 (3 hari je..O.o)
-END MODULE EXAM: 3 may 2012

SR dah pesan jangan ponteng kuliah atau tak pergi practical.. agak speechless juga bila tengok jadual kuliah. erm, semoga Allah permudahkan kami semua dalam menyerap ilmu GIT system ni. kita tak perlu takut.. Allah tidak pernah berjanji bahawa hidup ini mudah kerana asas kehidupan adalah dugaan dan cabaran TAPI Allah berjanji bahawa Dia akan bersama-sama kita menempuhi kehidupan ini.. selagi kita yakin padaNya, insyaAllah semua baik-baik saja. :')

usaha semampu yang boleh.. biar Allah nilai dan bagi apa yang sepatutnya kita dapat. after all, He always knows what best for us. :') may Allah bless..

maaf

KEMAAFAN mungkin amat BERAT untuk diberikan kepada orang yang pernah melukakan hati kita..tetapi hanya dengan memberi kemaafan sahajalah kita akan dapat MENGUBAT HATI yang telah terluka..KEMAAFAN yang diberi secara IKHLAS dan TULUS dari hati yang nurani, umpama PISAU BEDAH yang boleh membuang segala PARUT LUKA emosi..

p/s : BAHAGIA yang menerpa tidak kekal selamanya..begitu juga dengan DERITA yang sering mengalirkan air mata kita..jangan sesekali kita LUPA, Allah sentiasa ada untuk kita..BE STRONG..♥♥
"SAKIT yang ku rasa biar jadi PENAWAR kepada dosa-dosaku.."

yakin padaNya

✿~Biar manusia BERSANGKA BURUK..
✿~ Biar manusia MENGHINA..
✿~ Biar manusia MEMFITNAH..
✿~ Biar manusia MENCELA..
✿~ Biar manusia BERFIKIRAN NEGATIF..

Tetapi selagi Allah ADA di sisi, selagi Allah MEMELIHARA diriku, selagi Allah MELINGUNGI dan MENJAGA diriku..selagi itulah tiada insan yang dapat MENYAKITI dan MENZALIMI diriku..keyakinan kepada Allah menguatkan hati, seringkali manusia itu MENGECEWAKAN tetapi Allah tidak pernah dan tidak akan mengecewakan hambaNya..terima kasih Allah..♥♥

p/s : Dalam hati berkata, "Allah sayang diriku, pelindung HIDUP dan MATIKU..tidak mungkinku pergi menjauh.." :)

source 

Kata tak kisah apa pun orang kata tentang dirinya.. Kata yakin pada ketentuan Allah.. tapi sibuk tanya orang lain kenapa tak pernah berhenti kacau hidup dia. Dia tak sedar yang sebenarnya dia yang kacau hidup orang lain. Dalam hati ni tiada langsung nak ingat kat dia sebab tiada kaitan dengan hidup. Kalau dia yakin pada Allah, tindakan dia takkan begitu. Apa pun yang jadi, aku berserah pada Allah. Semoga ketentuanNya adalah yang terbaik untuk kami semua. aminn.. :)

nak yang soleh, nak cari sehidup semati..

satu ayat yang menjadi topik perbualan dengan sorang sahabat seha..

"Jangan hanya inginkan lelaki yang baik selagi kita tidak menjadi baik, tetapi jadilah wanita yang baik sehingga kita diinginkan oleh lelaki yang baik."

dekat-dekat exam ni juga nak timbul cerita macam ni kan. hehe.. tapi hakikatnya, walaupun umur masih muda, dari sekarang ni lah kena persiapkan diri untuk bina keluarga yang sakinah insyaAllah.

bagi si Adam, tanggungjawab anda selepas berkeluarga sangat besar. anda diberikan amanah oleh Allah membimbing bukan sahaja isteri tetapi juga anak-anak yang bakal hidup bersama di jalanNya. jadi, bermula dari usia muda inilah anda perlu melengkapkan diri dengan ilmu-ilmu fardhu ain, untuk bekalan bersama hidup di dunia dan untuk mengejar kebahagiaan di akhirat kelak. selepas kahwin, dosa isteri dan anak-anak semua bergantung di bahu anda. baik bimbingan anda, insyaAllah ringanlah bahu anda. buruk bimbingan anda, fikir-fikirlah sendiri.

bagi si Hawa pula, anda juga ada tanggungjawab yang besar! tanggungjawab yang diperlukan sebagai isteri yang patuh kepada suami dan sebagai ibu yang lembut membelai anak-anaknya. memang tiada dinyatakan tugas untuk menguruskan kerja rumah adalah tugas wanita, tetapi persiapkanlah diri dengan ilmu memasak, mengemas rumah, berhias diri sejajar dengan tugas anda untuk membahagiakan dan meringankan beban suami anda. kitakan nak jadi penyejuk dan penyenang hati suami kita.. insyaAllah.

kalau kita suka kat seseorang, sebelum ambil keputusan untuk make a move, apa kata kita solat istikarah dulu? minta supaya Allah beri petunjuk sama ada dia untuk kita atau bukan, sama ada dia orang yang betul atau tidak. minta pada Allah dekatkan dia dengan kita sekiranya dia baik untuk kita, agama kita, dunia kita dan juga akhirat kita. kita juga kena redha dengan apa jua petunjuk yang diberikan Allah kerana Dialah yang Maha Mengetahui. jika dia bukan untuk kita, yakinlah bahawa Allah menyediakan yang lebih baik untuk kita. dan jika dia baik untuk kita, mulalah langkah dengan bertaaruf seperti yang diperintahkan oleh Rasulullah (taaruf adalah kegiatan bersilaturahim,  berkenalan, bertatap muka, atau bertamu ke rumah seseorang dengan tujuan berkenalan dengan penghuninya), bukan dengan cara berdating yang hanya mengundang maksiat yang menjadi mancis ke lembah api perzinaan. jika kita ikhlas niat kerana Allah, insyaAllah hubungan kita ini akan mendapat redha yang Esa dan kekal hingga ke anak cucu cicit.

apabila kita berkenan atau dirisik oleh seseorang, kita perlu tahu tentang sikap atau karakter dirinya. sebab itulah Rasulullah saw sendiri menyuruh kita bertaaruf. sebelum itu, kita juga perlu buat check-list tentang karakter bagaimana ciri-ciri yang kita mahukan (ingat, kita berkahwin dengan manusia, bukan malaikat). jika lebih 50% ciri-ciri itu ada pada dirinya, zasss.. "yes i do" je lah. pernah jumpa tak ayat ni? 

seharusnya lelaki tidak harus meletakkan piawaian yang terlalu tinggi untuk calonnya. kerana jika IMANnya hebat, maka dia akan memimpin dengan baik, tidak kira siapa pun yang akan menjadi makmumnya.

yang harus cerewet adalah wanita. kerana dia sedang memilih calon IMAMnya. dan sudah pasti, dia mahukan calon imam yang mampu membimbing dengan baik. kerana memilih bakal imam, lebih penting dari memilih bakal makmum.

sorang kawan post kat group i-Mumtaz, and seha setuju 100% dengan ayat ni.. 

tetapi awas, sebelum buat apa-apa keputusan besar dalam hidup kita, istikarahlah kepada Allah terlebih dahulu. pohon kepadaNya supaya keputusan yang bakal kita ambil adalah petunjuk dariNya, bukan atas hawa nafsu mahupun bisikan syaitan. jika benar dia untuk kita, jangan berhenti untuk memohon supaya Allah permudahkan jalan itu. insyaAllah, Dia kan maha Mendengar.

seha sangat percaya yang keserasian sangat mudah dicapai apabila kita di bawah redha  Allah. proses mengenali juga lebih mudah, cepat dan telus selepas diijab qabulkan kerana kita berdua sudah berada di landasan yang betul. proses mengenali (orang muda-mudi cakap 'mencari keserasian') sebelum berkahwin lebih menjurus kepada bisikan syaitan.

jika baru bercinta dihasutnya supaya 'lebih mengenali', nak suruh buat maksiat lettew. jika sudah buat keputusan untuk berkahwin, dihasutnya supaya timbul salah faham, nak halang kita 'saling mengenali' secara halal lettew. syaitan sangat benci melihat anak Adam berumah tangga kerana periuk nasi utama mereka akan 'basi'.

timbul pula persoalan "kalau tak mengenali, macam mana nak tahu serasi ke tak?". tanya pula pada diri sendiri, "nak kahwin kerana apa? suka-suka? nafsu? sebab orang lain kahwin jadi saya pun kena kahwin? atau kerana Allah?". jika jawapannya adalah kerana Allah, insyaAllah rasa tanggungjawab dalam diri itu akan menserasikan kita.

bagi seha, suami adalah segala-galanya selepas Allah dan Rasul saw. tidak utuh seha bazirkan cinta kepada lelaki lain kalau akhirnya nanti yang bakal sehidup semati, besusah bersenang dengan seha adalah suami seha? yang lebih berat, wajarkah seha memberi sedikit cinta seha kepada lelaki lain sedangkan yang akan menanggung dosa seha nanti adalah suami seha?

semoga kita semua bertemu dengan dia yang telah Allah tetapkan untuk kita.. bertemu dalam redhaNya, dan berpisah untuk bertemuNya. aminn.. may Allah bless! :)

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"Dan dijadikanNya di antara kamu rasa kasih dan sayang." [30:21]