our winter break

Assalamualaikum wbt..

winter break adalah waktu yang sangat ditunggu-tunggu oleh pelajar mesir.. hee. sebab apa? sebab time tu la semua akan melancong ke luar mesir ataupun balik ke malaysia bagi mereka yang rindukan rumah atau rindukan makanan malaysia yang tiada dijual di mesir. hehe.. tapi ada juga yang tak ke mana-mana, hanya duduk berehat di rumah. terpulang sama ada berehat sepenuhnya atau sibuk mengikuti mana-mana kelas agama.

winter break kami berdua kali ni lebih kurang sama dengan tahun lepas.. tak ke mana-mana. yang bezanya, kami berdua dah kahwin tahun ni. hehe.. jadi banyak masa kami kongsi bersama waktu cuti ni. tahun lepas tak boleh sebab masih dalam tempoh bertunang.

sebab utama kami tak ke mana-mana cuti ni ialah.. kami mahu membersihkan rumah sepenuhnya dan belajar juga sebab lepas cuti ni final exam semakin menghampiri. :0

berbalik kepada niat nak membersihkan rumah, sebab utama kami nak sangat rumah kembali bersih ialah ini..!

kulat dah tumbuh bukan saja dekat dinding rumah kami, tapi dah naik dekat perabot kami seperti rak buku dan katil. mungkin sebab keadaan musim sejuk yang lembap membuatkan rumah kami dibanjiri kulat-kulat ni. ada dua sebab kami harus membersihkan rumah ialah satu, rumah dah tak cantik sebab kulat-kulat ni menghiasi dinding rumah kami, dua, ia juga tidak baik untuk kesihatan sebab kulat-kulat ni boleh tumbuh dalam liang rongga pernafasan kita yang juga sentiasa lembap.

doakan kami bersabar dengan dugaan Allah bagi ni.. dugaan yang nampak kecil tapi sebenarnya agak memeningkan kepala juga sebab final exam dah nak dekat, rumah pula belum siap kemas. hari ini inshaAllah akan ke kedai Jotun untuk beli cat.

aktiviti lain masa musim cuti ni selain kemas rumah ialah dating.. sebab sebelum kahwin dulu tak boleh. hehe.. 

my mee jawa! :)
nanti kalau rajin akan letak resepi dalam blog inshaAllah

alhamdulillah.. hidup selepas berdua ni lebih baik dan teratur jika dibandingkan dengan masa zaman bujang dulu. doakan juga kami dapat buat umrah tahun depan.. antara sebab tak jalan winter break ni ialah nak kumpul duit pergi umrah inshaAllah. lepas tu, baru rasa tenang dan happy nak round tempat lain pula. hee.. update yang super simple saja. terima kasih sudi baca. may Allah bless us all! :)  

a note of love to all my single girlfriends

Assalamualaikum.. i found this on fb. Just wanna share it to all of you. Hope you'll like it just like i do.

Last night my husband & I went for grocery shopping and we bought not-so-glamorous stuffs for the house like floor cleaner, cooking oil & rice; and then it struck me that we’re so married! Hehe... Alhamdulillah… It got me thinking of the things that I would do instead last night if I was still single; and it reminds me of my single friends who (I assume) like me once – waiting, hoping & looking for Mr. Right. Yes, I was all that, waiting, hoping & looking, and now when Allah sends my husband to me, for me, it happened so quickly, so fast, we were married within two-and-a-half months after the first day we laid eyes on each other! How did it happen? It’s Allah’s decree, no doubt. Alhamdulillah..

Before I deep-dive further into my marriage, I feel that I need to do my part to share with you bits and pieces of advice on the journey of finding ‘the one’. Please take this from my own experience and observation and it is not anyway to be treated like 'the checklist', but I think it will help insyaAllah.

#1 – Be Fair

A friend of mine told me that ‘we’ll get who we deserve’, and many years later I realized and come to my wisdom that it’s true; and to me, it’s even written in the Quran that: “…women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity” – Qur’an 24:26. So ladies, before we list down our criteria in a man that we’re looking for, like “Dia mestilah seorang yang bertanggung jawab, beriman & menghormati orang tua etc., do reflect again are we all that in the first place? Are we responsible? Are we pious? Are we respectful to the elders?

#2 – Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook You Up

We are Muslims. And we know that Allah is the Creator and He holds our future, our life. And only from Him we could be guided to find the one, the right one, the good one. So do check out this great article on the explanation of Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook you Up. I hold this concept true to my heart during my single days and hopefully you'll find it beneficial too insyaAllah.

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/hook-up-with-allah-allah-will-hook-you-up/

#3 – Be Proactive

When a few other friends and I were single, we are inspired by the story of our Mother of the Believers, Khadijah Binti Khuwailid r.a. There is an article on it, which is “Just Because Khadijah Ask” and one of the excerpts in the article says:

“Khadijah asked. Khadijah, may Allah’s Mercy be upon her, asked about Prophet Muhammad for marriage. She initiated the communication. She sent someone on her behalf to find out if he was available for marriage. And it was because she asked, that she got that blessed answer. And with that answer, was the beginning of the greatest stories of love for all times, and also one of the greatest examples of a true muhsina and mumina. A woman older than him, previously married with children, was inquiring about a younger bachelor, from one of the best tribes in town.  The honor of his acceptance wasn’t just hers alone. It was his too. He was going to marry one of the most beautiful hearts in all of Mecca. A woman who’s heart would sacrifice everything she had to support him, and Islam. Khadijah asked.”

Check out this website for the article:

http://muslimmatters.org/2010/08/02/because-khadijah-asked-an-alternative-path-to-meeting-mr-right/

I’m not saying just get out there and ask any male passers-by if they’re single and looking; but be truthful to begin with. The next time your aunts asking you when you’re getting married?; instead of replying “I just want to focus on my career for now”, please remove your ego and say “I have not found one, why not you introduce me to someone Aunty? I am ready to settle down.” They will usually quickly think of someone for you, or the at least they will think of you when the next time any of her friends start asking for any single girls to marry their bachelor sons, and if that doesn't happen too, the very least they will stop asking you when and that will lift unnecessary pressure.

Besides that, be active in community service, environmental projects, language classes, or any halal activities of your interest. You’d tend to meet more people outside your regular circle of friends, and raise the possibilities of meeting the one; and best of all he will share the same interest as you. Sharing the same interest is always a good thing to begin with.

#4 – He will be the Father of Your Children

I went for a talk by Yunus Kathrada, he told us a story of a man who went to see a Syeikh to seek advice on his newborn child. Which is good to always seek advice, but the Syeikh responded to the man “It’s too late”. Why? The Syeikh said that the process of raising an excellent child begins even before we get married - by selecting a good spouse to begin with. I have heard stories about girl meets boy at Hard Rock Café, at Zouk nightclub and what else have we. I cannot say that couples met at all these places would be heading to a crappy marriage, but think about it. Don’t we all want a good beginning for our union that would bear us pious and righteous kids in the future?

For a very good lecture on this, it brought tears to my eyes. Allahuakbar. Please YouTube search this: "Mufti Menk parent~child relationship"

Maybe what I'm trying to say also is, all human are born with a fitrah, an innate feeling of returning to the Almighty Allah. No matter how naughty we are at a point of our lives, at the back of our heads I'm sure we'll be thinking "I will repent and return to Allah one day". But, if girl meets boy at nightclub, and then they get married, years later the girl feels like she wants to get closer to Allah while the boy still would like to party; then we'll see a problem when the girl starts going to religious classes and want to go for Umrah, while her husband refuse to even pray his solat. Which of the parents will the children look up to and follow? Let's think far, and choose wisely.

Besides that, observe his temperament & his reaction towards children – the last thing you would want when you’re married with 3 kids crying in your arms, you ask for his help with the kids and he says.. “You know right honey, me and kids just don’t gel”…

#5 – Eliminate, Banish Your Baggage

I believe there is wisdom for free-mixing and dating is haraam in Islam. We all know that GF-BF concept is superficial; we will never get to know the true color of someone until we live with them – day in, day out. If you are still not convinced that dating is haram, the are a lot of hadiths to prove it, but I will share one here that I feel so strong about:

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

-Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

Don't tell me people who "couple" and "date" don't even touch each other. Dating/couple/in a relationship is haram my dears. Fear Allah and seek for his help to give you strength to do the right thing.

And to me, the other ugly side of this “dating” relationship is, it does not always have the happy ending. I have heard stories of a bride crying on her wedding day when her ex-boyfriend called her up for a last good bye, some still can’t get over their exes even after having children; some still secretly get in touch with their exes just to ask “How have you been”?” subhanAllah… May Allah protect us from this.

If you still have issues or still cannot get over an ex, deal with it now. It will fog-up your path to find the one, and you will always have the shadow of your ex over your decision on moving on with another man. You would only want to have a vision of you and your husband and your kids in the future, and not the thought of “How would it be if I marry him instead?” Wise up, girls!

#6 – Be Selective, Not Picky

I believe there is a fine line between being selective and picky. To me, if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered and has a stable income; but he smokes & you realized that he seldom attends Friday prayers, then yes you're being selective. But if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered, has stable income, doesn't smoke, and is Allah-fearing, but he is a mommy's boy (or he's balding, or he has an interesting hobby of collecting dried leaves) then you're being picky.

Key thing to remember here “Deal Breaker”. If he has or lacks of certain pivotal quality/characteristic that you cannot live with/without then it is big reason not to marry him. For example, if you know you're a career driven person and have major career ambitions but your potential husband wants you to eventually quit your job to look after the kids then that's the “Deal Breaker”. But please do not confuse deal breaker with differences. For example, if you like to eat Japanese and hates Italian food but he cannot bear the thought of eating raw fish but loves pasta, this is not deal breaker. Both of your can still work around differences and it is silly to have a big fight over which restaurant to go have dinner. But “Deal Breakers” are something that could most likely put a strain in a marriage in which failing to manage could lead to divorce. See the significance?

However, please try not to overanalyze and being hypercritical. Another key thing to remember is: Nobody Is Perfect, and no sayang, not even you.

#7 – Be Ready to Give (Up)

Marriage is not all about sex. It's not all about him showering you with endless love and affection. It's not all about cuddling & curling up together in the bed every night. Yes, it is all that, but it is not all and everything about that. It's not all about you! Marriage needs sustenance, and it does not come for free, you need to work for it. You need to give. Just like how we expect our men to know manly stuffs like how to change the car tyre when it punctures or know to repair a leaking pipe or how to assemble a DIY baby cot; I'm sure men would also expect the wives to know womanly stuffs like how to cook, how to do laundry properly and perhaps iron man's work clothes.

Of course most of us could say that it's the modern world now, women don't need to know how to cook and clean and that we can get a maid to do all that. But would you really want to get a maid to cook your husband's meals & iron your husband's work shirts? I know it's easier said than done, but who say that to maintain a happy marriage is effortless & easy?

Ready to give, includes being ready to give up. Do you have male friends who you often hang with, or who to you “we're just friends?” or “we've been friends for so long he's like a brother to me”? Guess what? After you're married, I would need to advice you to give them up like a bad habit. I know along the years we have made so many friends including guy friends, but once we're married we CANNOT hang out with them anymore. I am not saying we cannot be friends anymore, but it is with loads of limitation. I trust that you would use your wisdom on how to draw the line. Even though you future husband is the “coolest” guy on earth (and Allah forbids) he allows you hang out with any of your guys friends, once you're being seen by other people hanging out with another guy other than your husband, you've lit a spark for fitnah and speculation which will spread like wildfire. Imagine a neighbour saw you walking with your male friend at a mall, and she tells your mother in-law. High voltage drama huh?

Trust. Could take years to build, but only a minute to destroy.

#8 - It's Him Not His Money

So, he drives a BMW and earns RM20k a month? OR So, he drives his father's first car and don't really have a proper job? BUT I say So what?

Often times girls will look for a man that is wealthy and rich - that's completely common. Its a biological and psychological thing. We need look for men that can "hunt & gather" to provide security, shelter and food to take care of us and our young. It's a survival thing.

However, either he is rich or broke; he is actually rich or broke NOW. Who are we to say that their wealth will be there forever, or that they will earn very little money for lifetime? The key point to stress, is his deen (iman) & character. Does he have the right knowledge and iman to guide you and your young. Does he have maturity and good character to endure the challenges of the world and maried life? They say money is the #1 cause of divorce nowadays. But do you think it's the money or how the married couple deal and manage when they're stuck in a situation that involves money?

I am not saying, go into marriage blindly but please use your wisdom and not your desire. He may not have much today, but if you see that he has the willpower to work hard to earn a better living and you believe with all your heart that Allah is All Provider, insyaAllah you'll be fine.

For me, during the ta'aruff (introduction meeting) with my then-not-yet-husband, I asked him about his education. To me and maybe to a lot of parents education is key. Personally, I don't mind if he is a burger flipper at Ramly Burger (he's not by the way), but if he has a qualification, or a degree or something, insyaAllah he has something to fall back on. I didn't ask him about how much he's earning or anything like that, because it's not important to me. Have faith in Allah that He is The All Provider.

From Umar ibn Al-Khattab from the Prophet (sas) who said:

"If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs."

Ahmad, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi who said: "Hassan sahih"

#9 – Know the Rights of Husband & Obligations of Wife, Vice Versa.

A lot of us dreams of getting married one day to wear nice dress on the wedding day. But after the wedding day is over a whole new world of responsibilities await you and him. Both husband and wife has a list of responsibilities within the Islamic guidelines. Read them up, study them. By abiding to this guidelines, almost certainly we can maintain a happy marriage by the will of Allah.

But often, during tense and trying times the husband and wife would usually accuse each other of not full filling his/her rights. For example the husband would say “You should beautify yourself for me and not look like a mess at home!”; and the wife would say something like “You're supposed to provide a home for us, but we been living with your housemate for months now!”

A key guideline to this is to prioritize your obligations as a wife and to respect the rights of the husband. And vice versa of course. Know your obligations, what you should do, your responsibilities BEFORE thinking about your rights, his obligations, what he should do and his responsibilities.

So now.. can you manage to fulfill all your obligations? Are you such a strong-headed person that would be able to listen to your husbands advice? Do you have the right attitude to be kind to your husband? Do you still think that after you're married you can do whatever you want and allow anybody into your house without your husband's permission? What would you do if you have a long tiring day at work but you need to fulfill your husband's physical desire? Do you have the right motivation to beautify yourself (at home) to be pleasing to his eyes with your appearance? Basically, do we have the right mindset to strive to be a good wife? Or do we still think it's all about me, me, me?

Please ponder on this hadith:

Qays ibn Sa'd Narrated: I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap (governor of a province in ancient Persia) of theirs, so I said: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Apostle of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. [Hadith: Sunan Abu Dawud, 11:2135]

Heavy. I know... :(

But marriage is such a pure & beautiful thing that if we fulfill every obligations for the sake of Allah, we shall be rewarded for every effort insyaAllah.

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

insyaAllah...Yeay!! :D

#10 – It is the Marriage, Not the Wedding

I think we heard countless times that engaged couples are putting off marriage because they do not have enough money to hold the wedding. If you're imagining a wedding with rotating wedding cake, nasi minyak lobster menu, tents decorated with thousands of tulips from Amsterdam, haute couture Vera Wang wedding dress and French Riviera honeymoon (ok, I'm exaggerating here but you get the picture) - then no wonder why you need to put off your wedding.

But my dears, it's really not all about the wedding. Some of my friends asked me whether it was the happiest day of my life; I had a little trouble answering that because leading after the wedding is what matters more to me. The whole lifetime with this person that you should treat him as part of you; and build a family with children whom are the coolness of our eyes. InsyaAllah.. and that thought itself could make one very happy.

It's not about the wedding stuffs. I remember people who attended my wedding and the precious moments. How I was overwhelmed with emotions when my dad hugged me tightly before the akad nikah & my mom whispered "you'll always be my baby" during the akad nikah ceremony. And the happiest thing I could remember on my wedding day was holding his hand for the very first time. That was surreal, I loved it so much. See? I don't remember much about the wedding stuffs; although they're really nice - the dress, the pelamin, the bunga telur, Alhamdulillah, but I don't remember that time and again.  I always have this theory, the longer it takes to prepare a wedding the harder it gets to let the wedding itself go... After 1 year (or even more) of preparing, it will all be over in 2 days, and you'd go.. "That's it? That's The wedding?" So please, once you have met the right person to marry, go ahead with it – quickly.

Some really good books on preparing yourselves for marriage, I would recommend:

1. The Muslim Family Series by Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly

2. The Ideal Muslimah by Dr. Muhammad Ali Al Hashimi

Can get them from Dakwah Corner Bookstore -  http://www.dakwahbookstore.com.my

Some really good speakers I love listening to (YouTube them):

1. Mufti Menk

2. Nouman Ali Khan

3. Mussab Wadji Akkari

So there you go. A little note of love from the quite newly married me to all my single sisters. I always make du'a for Allah to hasten the jodoh for all my single sisters with a pious and great men who will be the coolness of their eyes. Please make loads of du'a for yourselves too. Never lose hope in the mercy of Allah.  “Hook up with Allah and Allah will hook you up”, remember? :)

A wife is like a gift to a man. And there is a hadith that goes like this:

"This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is righteous women.” - Sahih Muslim 10/56.

So prepare yourself to be a gift (and not a test) to your future husband, so that one day he will hold you and look lovingly in your eyes and say “Alhamdulillah”.

~END~

Do share if you feel this would benefit others, insyaAllah.

Please make doa for Allah to shower me & my family with His mercy and keep us steadfast on the right path. Ameen..

sebelum melangkah ke alam itu

Assalamualaikum wbt..

seha nak share satu artikel berguna yang disediakan oleh saudara Adlan Khalidi. disini seha copy infografik tentang perkahwinan untuk rujukan sesiapa saja sebagai persediaan masa depan dan untuk rujukan seha sendiri juga. 

erm, siapa cakap kahwin ni senang kan?

alam perkahwinan memang diimpikan setiap insan. tapi kita kena tahu dan sememangnya sudah tahu yang alam itu jugalah yang penuh dengan tanggungjawab. bahu jika belum cukup tegap nak pikul tanggungawab itu, tak usah sibuk mencari calon sekarang. banyak yang perlu kita baiki dalam diri sendiri untuk ke arah itu. sekarang pun seha rasa masih banyak yang perlu seha belajar untuk melangkah ke alam itu. 

seha ada terbaca satu artikel di dalam majalah solusi yang bertajuk "Telah siapkah dirimu menjadi Super Parents?". dan ayat yang mencuit fikiran dari artikel itu berbunyi “Lebihkan menjadi daripada mencari”.. instead sibuk mencari suami/isteri soleh/solehah, kita sendiri kena jadi soleh/solehah dulu. kan pasangan kita itu adalah cermin kepada diri kita sendiri. sama-sama fikirkan sejenak.. :)

selain itu, bacalah post yang Fatin Liyana share. sangat berguna dan terkesan dalam hati.. dan insyaAllah kita sama-sama ambil pengajaran dari pengalaman orang lain. :)

pada yang belum pergi kursus kahwin, pergilah. tak kisahlah kahwin lambat lagi ka apa. lepas seha pergi kursus kahwin tahun lepas, barulah seha sedar. kahwin bukan perkara main-main, bukan untuk seronok seronok. kahwin boleh jadi salah satu jalan pintas ke syurga. tetapi awas, jika tak cukup ilmu, perkahwinan juga membolehkan anda menempah sekeping tiket VVIP ke neraka. fikir-fikirkanlah..

seha doakan semoga kita semua mendapat jodoh yang baik dan hidup yang lebih dekat denganNya setelah bernikah.. insyaAllah. may Allah bless! :)

newly weds

assalamualaikum wbt..
post yang short ni untuk cousin seha yang kahwin 29 jun lepas. agak sedih sedikit sebab tak dapat balik untuk tengok cousin yang rapat kahwin, tengah berperang dengan kertas final sekarang.. tapi takpa, seha kirim doa dari jauh. semoga bahagia hingga ke syurga.. aminn.. :)

 Ahmad Fathi + Syarifah Aminah

congrate mina.. happy for you <3 :)

tahniah juga untuk irine nadia dan irma hasmie.. kahwin tarikh sama dengan cousin seha, 29 jun. :)

she's stunning! so beautiful.. :)

Redza + Irma Hasmie

Amirul + Irine Nadia

Lazimnya perempuan-perempuan yang jahat adalah untuk lelaki-lelaki yang jahat, dan lelaki-lelaki yang jahat untuk perempuan-perempuan yang jahat dan sebaliknya perempuan-perempuan yang baik untuk lelaki-lelaki yang baik, dan lelaki-lelaki yang baik untuk perempuan- perempuan yang baik. Mereka (yang baik) itu adalah bersih dari tuduhan buruk yang dikatakan oleh orang- orang yang jahat, mereka (yang baik) itu akan beroleh pengampunan (dari Allah) dan pengurniaan yang mulia.

[An-Nur:26]

p/s; subhanAllah.. bila lihat gambar-gambar kahwin ni, benarlah janji Allah dalam kitabNya al-Quran. perempuan yang baik untuk lelaki yang baik, dan lelaki yang baik untuk perempuan yang baik. so, kita kena usaha berubah ke arah kebaikan dan jadi solehah untuk dapat pasangan yang soleh dan baik juga, insyaAllah.  okay, now back to my exam mood! heee.. may Allah bless! :) 

believe in yourself

"One thing I've learned from the past is to never give up, no matter how bad your result is. Don't let it stop you from achieving your dreams."

In the name of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful.

It's 8.22 in the morning. Yesterday was our last lecture here, as a pre-clinical year students. Honestly, I'm a bit nervous for my coming exams. Now I'm not mentally and physically prepare for it. But despite all of that, my fingers still dance on the keyboard and write this post. I feel a bit guilty for this but I still want to finish this post and to wash away all my negative thoughts. And this post is also for my dearly sister who will be taking her SPM soon, Aliah. This is for you.. :)

I remember those days when I struggled to calm myself down. Those days were the days I lost my appetite to eat and losing interest to have fun with my friends. Those were the days when I spent my day working and the rest of it at home, completing Sudoku. Funny isn't it? I was so scared, terribly scared. But at the end of the day, I said to myself, I have to face it no matter what. Whether it is good or bad, I have to accept it and be grateful to Allah for it. Because Allah knows what's best for me. My result wasn't like what I expected, but Alhamdulillah, I passed all the papers. I am being completely honest; I'm just an ordinary student. But I believe in myself that I can go far beyond my imagination, beyond my expectation. And so do you. Yes you can. I believe the only thing limiting you is your thoughts. Only you have the power to change your thoughts. Look forward and dream of what is possible for your life. With action, anything in life is possible. Yes, we all can do it.

"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve."

[Dato' Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor] 

I love the quote. I've been keeping it in my heart and mind ever since I read it in Dato' Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor's book. Life has thrown some rocks in my stream and one of it has helped me to become stronger, to become who I am today. Sometimes struggles and challenges are exactly what we need in our lives. All the challenges are the nature of life which has helped me to grow up and to become more mature. One thing I've learned from the past is to never give up, no matter how bad your result is. Don't let it stop you from achieving your dreams. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.. :)

A few years ago, I was that girl sitting in her room imagining her dreams, putting her best effort to achieve her dreams. Alhamdulillah, with patient and faith I have in Allah, I've achieved a part of my dreams. The key is faith. Have faith in Allah and have faith in yourself. Take a good care of your relationship with Allah. Never neglect your five times daily prayers because that is the most important thing and the best communication we have with Allah, which is also the only way you can conceive Him that you really want this. Trust me, if you have Allah, you have everything and you lost nothing.

I look forward for adventures in my life. Now that I'm here, pursuing another dream of mine, setting goals and resolutions. I've been planning so many things for the future, insyaAllah. So, in order to achieve all that, I have to work hard and be persistent. Please pray for my success in this world and the Hereafter, to become the best Muslimah Doctor, InsyaAllahu Taala.

Our results will show us the hard work we've put on for the past few years or months. It shows us how much effort we've put on. By the meaning of 'effort', it's not just about burning the midnight oil. It's also about how earnestly you pray to Allah. If you fail to achieve your target, it is not the end of everything. Bear in mind that Allah knows what's best for you. Failing doesn't mean you are a loser. In fact, failure is the best teacher. The reason why Allah make it a bit harder for you is to make you a fighter. He wants you to feel and appreciate the feeling of victory and success. Set your aims and goals, and try harder next time. And if you pass with flying colors, then Alhamdulillah, say Alhamdulillah. Remember, nothing great was ever achieved without Allah's help. And His help is always near to us. May Allah bless us all! :)

Love,

     

burning the midnight oil!

this is my current desktop background

this is my last pre-clinical exam.. it is almost at the end now. and as you all can see, the picture above is my exam's date which will start next week on monday. it means; i have to marry my module books..

this one..

 and not forget this module too..

i have to say that this year is a very hard year for me.. but at the end of my struggle, i can still feel the sweetness. alhamdulillah.. :) there is always a blessing in every test He gave.

malaysia; 1 month to go..

ramadhan; 1 month ++ to go.. am i already prepared myself for it?

married; 3 months ++ to go.. will be update here after my exam, okay? :)

do pray for my success.. and for my friends too. we all really want to graduate together on the next three years, insyaAllah. i hope everything will go all fine and dandy. till next update then! may Allah bless.. :)

my lovely section mates

Section 2, 3rd year 2011/2012

Faculty of Medicine, Alexandria University, Egypt.

p/s; ni gambar section guna DSLR mun. thanks mun! :) tema section kami, girls ungu dan pink.. boys biru cerah. ni last picture for this year, final year of pre-clinical year. insyaAllah moga sama-sama masuk clinical year tahun depan.. aminn. may Allah bless! :)

on forgiveness and fairytale

"Learn to forgive. Forgive everything from the past and forgive anyone from your past. Because on this world, nobody is perfect."

We all make mistakes. And it is always good and noble to forgive someone in your life. In love, teach to forgive the one you love. It doesn't matter how bad or how much it hurt before, learn to forgive them. Even if they are not sorry. The best thing of forgiving someone is you are pleasing Allah Taala. InsyaAllah, only He can cure our hearts. And I also hope anyone that I've hurt will forgive me too. :)

"When you stop searching for a prince and make Allah the King of your heart, He will help you to complete your fairytale. InsyaAllah."

Remember, Allah always has a better plan for each and one of us. Alhamdulillah, I can't tell you how thankful I am to Allah that because of Him, I've learn to improve and see my mistakes in the past.  I've done so many mistakes. Now, all I want to do is to change myself to become a better person. InsyaAllah. I believe in Allah. I believe that He has written something special for me. Special that it takes a lot of patience and prayer. And all I want to do now is to prepare myself for that special person. A special person whom I'll be spending the rest of my life with, through thick and thin, and the most important things - the one who will lead me towards Allah, who will become the Imam for my prayers, the father of my children, the one who will always hold my hands and together helping each other to attain Jannah. InsyaAllah. To me, it's not just about love. It's more than that. It's about responsibility and commitment. It's about the beginning of the journey towards forever in Jannah. And most of all, I want it to be special, to experience it according to what Allah has already planned for me.

InsyaAllah.

I will always be waiting for that day to come.

Dear heart, have faith in Allah.

Love,

bila sahabat bicara soal kahwin..

assalamualaikum wbt..

tajuk post buat suspen ja kan.. hee. :) seha saja tulis post ni sekadar perkongsian dengan sahabat semua. seha tau ramai yang berhasrat untuk kahwin. alhamdulillah, niat yang baik. cuma bila waktunya dan dengan siapa, itu semua rahsia Allah. hak kita hanyalah untuk berusaha cari yang terbaik. insyaAllah..

berbalik pada tittle post ni, seha tengok ramai sahabat seha terutamanya pelajar di mesir ni yang cerita soal ni. tak kisahlah di facebook ataupun blog, topik ni memang hangat. lebih-lebih lagi time cuti summer.. ye tak? :D ramai juga sahabat yang bertanya.. contoh soalan yang paling kerap ialah, 'dulu seha ada buat istikharah tak?' dan 'macam mana kamu kenal? bila kenal?' dan 'bestkah ada orang ajak kahwin?'.. soalan bertubi-tubi seha terima. hehe.. semangat kawan-kawan bila bicara soal ini. :)

tapi ada juga yang cakap, 'takyahlah kahwin dulu. enjoy the freedom..!'. dalam hati seha, eh kalau dah kahwin, tak boleh enjoy dah ke? sebenarnya, itu semua depends dengan kita punya definisi 'enjoy'. mungkin ada orang rasa enjoy itu bila dapat lepak dengan kawan-kawan. mungkin juga ada orang rasa enjoy itu bila dapat jalan dengan family. lain orang, lain definisinya.

tapi sebenarnya, benda ni bukan main-main bukan hanya untuk enjoy. dan ini adalah pilihan seumur hidup kita, maksud seha kita akan hidup dengan dia kalau boleh sampai Allah tarik nyawa salah seorang dari kita atau pasangan kita. banyak nasihat yang seha dapat dari orang-orang yang dulu makan garam dari seha, dan nasihat itu semua seha simpan kemas-kemas dalam hati. sangat berguna. contohnya, abah seha pernah pesan macam ni..

"seha, abah minta maaf sebab ndak buat besar-besar sangat majlis seha nanti. bukan abah ndak mau raikan anak pertama abah kahwin. abah gembira. tapi abah ndak mau buat besar-besar sampai membazir. sederhana saja sudah cukup. majlis kahwin ni orang selalu buat besar-besar. tapi tak bertahan. nauzubillah. ada yang sebulan dua karam tengah jalan. kenapa jadi begitu? sebab kita ni, manusia ni, hanya merancang untuk majlis kahwin tu saja. tapi lupa merancang perjalanan hidup sepanjang berumahtangga. kalau mau bahagia sehari, rancang untuk sehari. tapi kalau mau bahagia untuk selamanya, kena timba ilmu agama sebanyak mungkin. dekatkan diri pada Allah. banyakkan berdoa. sebab hanya Allah yang kekal, dan jika kita bersandar hanya pada Dia, Allah akan jaga keharmonian rumahtangga kita. abah harap anak abah ni faham dan bahagia nanti.."

sedih.. :'( rindu abah.. ermm, perkahwinan memang bukanlah semudah yang disangka. bukan sekadar meneruskan cinta yang ada, tapi juga menunaikan tanggungjawab dan komitmen yang siap sedia untuk dipikul. sekarang ramai yang bercinta, tapi tiada matlamat untuk bernikah. akhirnya, putus tengah jalan, rugi masa dan tenaga, hanya mengumpul dosa. ada pula yang bercita-cita untuk bersama dan bernikah, tapi tidak pernah berusaha menjadi yang lebih baik. dan ada juga yang tidak pernah peduli dengan pasangan yang masih jahil tentang agama.

kadang-kadang seha terlupa, perkahwinan juga adalah salah satu medan dakwah. seha tidak warak. seha juga tidaklah alim yakni berilmu tinggi. seha cuma mau menyampaikan ilmu yang seha tau, yang seha pernah pelajari. bertudung labuh tidak semestinya kuat agama, tapi itulah hakikatnya pandangan di mata masyarakat sekarang. dan seha mesti menjaga agama yang seha tunjukkan dengan tudung dan baju labuh seha ini. seha tau kadang-kadang seha lalai. semoga Allah tidak biarkan seha terus leka.. aminn.. :')

seha galakkan sahabat-sahabat yang lain untuk percepatkan nikah. tapi sekiranya masih belum mampu, fokuslah pada yang ada dulu. kahwin tu memang best. lagi-lagi bila kahwin dengan orang yang kita sayang. tapi biarlah diiringi dengan berkat dan redha Ilahi. tanpa redhaNya, cinta yang disemai adalah sia-sia. semua orang sudah ditentukan jodohnya di Luh Mahfuz. hanya tunggu masa yang sesuai untuk bertemu, dan kita jangan putus asa mencari dengan cara yang betul dan diredhai. kalau sudah jumpa, salurkan pada jalan yang betul. jangan berhenti untuk jadi yang lebih baik. untuk pasangan, untuk masa depan, untuk diri sendiri dan yang paling penting, untuk pandangan Allah.

dan sekarang, seha tengah berusaha untuk menjadi lebih baik. dan seha tau dia pun berusaha juga.. doakan kami ya. :')

Alhamdulillah for every single person that ever came in my life.
Alhamdulillah.. for Allah had given me a chance to meet you.

oh ya, jangan lupa jemput seha ke walimah kamu nanti. seha? seha sudah kata, tunggu saja pengumumannya nanti. insyaAllah.. sama-sama doakan yang terbaik. may Allah bless! :)

terima kasih untuk..

khas buat kamu.. mudah-mudahan bakal suamiku, insyaAllah.

terima kasih kerana mengingatkan aku..

untuk mengingati Allah ketika marah,
untuk berwuduk ketika aku resah,
untuk bersolat ketika masuk waktu,
untuk berdoa ketika dugaan  menimpa,
untuk menghubungi keluargaku ketika aku lupa,
untuk menjaga kesihatan ketika aku sakit,
untuk menutup aurat ketika aku mahu keluar,
untuk memberikan aku kekuatan ketika aku lemah,
untuk menjadikan aku tabah ketika rindu rumah, 

untuk merindui Allah dan RasulNya,
untuk membaca dan menghafaz kitabNya, 

untuk menjadi hambaNya yang soleh,
untuk menjadi anak yang solehah,
untuk tekun dengan pelajaranku, 

untuk membiasakan diri menjadi isteri mithalimu.. insyaAllah.. :')

sungguh,aku berharap agar aku menjadi isterimu di dunia dan di syurga. ah,aku terlupa. aku seharusnya berdoa.
tidak, bukan seharusnya. tapi, sewajibnya berdoa.

"Ya Allah, jika dia benar untukku, dekatkanlah hatinya dengan hatiku, jika dirinya bukan untukku, damaikanlah hatiku dengan ketentuanMu"

mudah-mudahan jodoh Allah untuk kita itu ada. Aminn Ya Rabb.. :')

insyaAllah, segala pesananmu akan ku tunaikan.jzzk. :)

men vs women

assalamualaikum wbt..

alhamdulillah, kita masih diberi kesempatan untuk hidup pada hari ini. mungkin Allah mahu memberi kita peluang untuk menambahkan amalan, mungkin juga Allah memberi kita peluang untuk bertaubat dan berubah. everyday is a gift from Him.. alhamdulillah. :)

ermm.. untuk entry kali ni, seha mau berkongsi ilmu yang seha dapat dari Lady's Garden atau taffaquh akhawat pagi tadi. kak Nor Syafiqah bentang buku 'Men from Venus, Women from Mars'. dari taffaquh ni, seha dapat faham belajar banyak benda pasal diri sendiri dan lelaki. why women act like this and why men act like that, why women feel that way and why men do that thing when he is stressed on something. secara jujurnya, seha dengar kak Nor explain baru seha faham maksud yang buku tu mau sampaikan. alhamdulillah.. :)

tapi jangan salah faham pula okay.. kita belajar memahami lelaki bukan hanya untuk persediaan berumah tangga nanti. dengan buku ni juga, kita dapat faham abah kita, abang kita, adik lelaki kita, orang yang kita perlu jumpa di tempat kerja contohnya pesakit seha nanti pun bukan perempuan saja mesti ada lelaki juga kan. so, buku ni sebenarnya sangat membantu kita memperbaiki communication skill dan cara kita berinteraksi dengan lelaki.

dalam buku ni ada 10 chapters dan insyaAllah seha akan cerita sedikit sebanyak apa yang seha dapat dari majlis ilmu tu lepas kak Nor sudah explain. tapi untuk entry kali ni, seha hanya cerita sikit saja. yang selebihnya kalau rajin, bacalah buku tu. :) seha gabung chapter 1 (tajuk buku) dan chapter 2, Mr Fix-It and the Home Improvement Committee.

first sekali, cara perempuan cope with stress tidak sama dengan cara lelaki handle their stress. kalau perempuan, dorang mau rasa diberi perhatian dan didengar. bila ada masalah atau stress, dorang mau luah dan didengar. dorang akan rasa happy dan lega lepas luah even lepas luahkan, masalah tu still belum selesai. tapi lelaki selalunya tidak faham. bila dengar perempuan luahkan masalah, lelaki akan try bagi solution. tapi sebenarnya perempuan tidak mahukan solution, dia hanya mahu didengar dan diberi perhatian. perempuan akan rasa sangat lega lepas luah, mungkin juga dia luahkan dengan menangis. depends dengan masalah yang dia hadapi.

perempuan juga akan melepaskan geram atau marah dorang dengan membebel, marah-marah. pernah tengok mak kita marah sebab rumah berselerak? bila mak kita marah macam tu, apa yang patut kita buat ialah diam dan dengar. jangan menjawab atau balas balik apa yang mak kita cakap. selalunya mak kita akan marah sambil tangan dia bergerak mengemas rumah. kita patut buat apa? duduk diam tengok mak kita mengemas? no no noo.. wrong! kita pun sambil dengar sambil lah tolong dia kemas sekali. lepas tu, percayalah, mak kita akan okay balik. mungkin siap masak makan malam special lagi.. hehe.. :D

hah.. ni lelaki pula, cara dorang cope with stress sangat berbeza. dorang tidak bising-bising macam perempuan. dorang akan diam, tapi otak dorang akan try fikir solution kepada masalah dorang. bagi lelaki, bila dorang luahkan masalah dorang dengan orang lain, dorang akan nampak lemah. lelaki tidak suka bila kita keep on asking him what's the problem sebab selagi masalah tu dia rasa dia boleh handle, dia akan buat sendiri. sebenarnya, lelaki mahu kita percaya dan yakin yang dia boleh handle family dengan usaha dia sendiri. so, let them be our heroes! :)

lagi satu, perasanka lelaki suka tengok berita, tengok perlawanan bola atau main game after kerja or study? tau kenapa dorang suka buat begitu? sebenarnya, lelaki akan cuba lupakan masalah kerja yang belum selesai dalam kepala dorang dengan cuba fokus kepada berita di tv. dalam fikiran dorang, dorang try bagi pendapat dan fikir solution untuk masalah negara, ekonomi, politik walaupun sebenarnya dorang tidak involve secara direct dengan benda tu. lelaki juga akan pergi main bola, main badminton atau apa-apa saja yang dapat buat dorang lupa sekejap masalah dorang di tempat kerja. contohnya, lepas main bola, group bola dia menang, lepas tu dia akan lebih bersemangat untuk sambung balik settlekan masalah di tempat kerja tadi. begitulah cara lelaki cope dengan stress dorang.

second point, perempuan adalah otak multi-tasking. perempuan boleh buat banyak benda dalam satu masa. contohnya, time masak, perempuan boleh lari kejap pergi jemur kain, lepas tu lari lagi pergi tengok anak dia, sambung masak balik, sempat lagi buat susu untuk anak dia. even sambil driving, perempuan boleh make up. trust me! sungguh lasak perempuan kan.. itulah kurniaan Allah pada perempuan, supaya perempuan dapat urus rumah tangganya dengan teratur. sebab tu ada perempuan dapat jadi suri rumah dan berkerjaya dalam satu masa.

okay.. now you trust me kan. :D

lelaki pula, otak dia hanya dapat fokus kepada satu benda. kalau time tu dia tengah kerja, dia akan fokus dan akan ignore kita. kalau dia study, dia akan study dan tumpu pada study dia tanpa buat benda lain. pernah dengar ayat, kalau lelaki stop main Dota hanya untuk reply mesej kamu, means lelaki tu betul-betul suka kamu. kenapa timbul ayat tu? sebab ni la, lelaki sebenarnya tidak dapat buat banyak benda dalam satu masa. kalau dia try buat lebih dalam satu masa pun, dia akan jadi confuse, pening dan mungkin jadi pemarah.

seha dapat kongsi setakat ini saja. semua tau, lelaki dan perempuan sangat berbeza. luaran sudah jelas berbeza, apa lagi dalaman. tapi bila gaduh, kenapa mesti menyalahkan antara satu sama lain sedangkan tahu pasangan kita itu jelas berbeza dengan kita. apa yang sama ialah rasa sayang. argue is not the solution.

 see.. we are different in every way that possible.

ermm.. apa yang seha dapat simpulkan ialah, try to accept the differences and respect each other. quote dari buku, 'when men and women are able to respect and understand their differences, then love has a chance to blossom'. semoga dapat memberi manfaat kepada kita insyaAllah. may Allah bless! :)